Allow Yourself to Be a Beginner

allow yourself to be a beginner

By now, New Year’s resolutions are in full swing. Hopefully, you’re one of those lucky individuals who is still staying the course determined to make healthier choices, run all the races, take up a new hobby, and learn to play a new instrument by the time this year is done. I mean, we get hoverboards this year so our plans must be equally grand!

However, sometimes those grand plans end up seeming more like an I Love Lucy scheme once we realize that we simply can’t breakup with chocolate. Our attempts only lead to late night rendezvous that leave us feeling dirty the next morning when our minds (and waistlines) weigh heavy with the guilt of our chocolate indiscretions. Why are the forbidden loves the most tempting?

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Of course, then we realize that the mere walk from the couch to the door leaves us gasping for air as if we had just run 5 miles up hill. And, in our hands, every instrument sounds more like a torture device than a source of beautiful music, even the triangle. But, that’s okay.

Allow yourself to be a beginner.

In a society focused on instant gratification (I blame Netflix) and social media highlight reels, we often forget that it’s okay to be a beginner. It’s okay not to be perfect.

Much like you wouldn’t expect a child to run before they could walk, nobody expects you to play Mozart before you can master Twinkle, Twinkle Little Star. Goals take time to achieve. Mistakes will be made. Lessons will be learned. Dues will be paid. But first you must allow yourself the freedom to make those mistakes, ask questions, and accept help. It is through your hard work, sweat, perseverance, and ability to embrace being a beginner that you will eventually become an expert. 

So the next time you find yourself facing a new goal, whether that be a career change, taking your blog to the next level, or simply learning a new skill, remember there’s nothing wrong with starting at the beginning.

  • Kristen

    great post girl! i totally agree. nothing wrong with being a beginner, we all start somewhere!

    • Eternally WanderLyn

      Thanks, Kristen! I think we forget that even people like Beyonce had to start at the beginning. :)

  • Sammy @ Days Like This

    here here!

    • Eternally WanderLyn

      Thanks, Sammy! I hope you’re enjoying your New Year so far. :)

  • Nadine

    We all have to start somewhere, right? Sometimes the beginning is the most exciting!

    • Eternally WanderLyn

      It really can be! It’s when we’re the most hopeful and filled with excitement. It’s before all the stress kicks in. Hah.

  • lisacng @

    So true! Our society has become accustomed to instant gratification (Netflix, yes, but also FB, Twitter, smartphones, texting). We need to give ourselves time to do lots of things — learning new skills, getting healthy, etc.

    • Eternally WanderLyn

      Yes! Things take time, but we often want results right now. I fall into that trap, too. I mean, I want to be able to watch an entire series at the push of a button or to be able to look something up on my phone that second. It seems technology has really just eliminated our ability to be patient. Hah.

  • Kati Rose

    This is a wonderful post! It’s something I constantly struggle with (dang perfectionism) and it’s much more enjoyable once you realize being a beginner is alright. Every endeavor I take on with my blog it’s something I have to remind myself of.

    • Eternally WanderLyn

      Right?! I feel like bloggers, including me, definitely fall into this trap. It’s easy to look at everybody else’s endeavors and want to be where they are. But, sometimes where they are is in the middle when you’re still at the beginning. And, that’s okay. It just takes time and patience. :)

    • Lynsey @ Eternally WanderLyn

      Right?! I feel like bloggers, including me, definitely fall into this
      trap. It’s easy to look at everybody else’s endeavors and want to be where
      they are. But, sometimes where they are is in the middle when you’re still
      at the beginning. And, that’s okay. It just takes time and patience. :)

  • Kay R.

    Such a great post! Too often we want to be great immediately without realising you have to start somewhere!

    • Eternally WanderLyn

      Thanks, Kay! You’re absolutely right. I know I want to pick up a guitar and immediately be able to rock. Or work on my blog and have all the readers flock to it. It just doesn’t work that way. :)

  • Lani

    Very nice post and a good reminder. What prompted you to post it? Are you learning something new? Hmmm? :)

    • Eternally WanderLyn

      LOL. I love how you read between the lines, Lani! :) I’ve actually been trying to learn to play the guitar for a while. I’m also thinking about learning another language. I just can’t decide which one. I guess I’m forever the student. Hah.

      • Lani

        Well, good luck then. Those are great endeavours 😀 and have fun 😉

        • Eternally WanderLyn

          Thanks, Lani! :)

  • Jaelan @ Making Mrs. M

    This is an AWESOME article. You’re completely right. This “give it to me now” world has caused us to think we need to be perfect when we start something new. Loved your spin on this.

    • Eternally WanderLyn

      Thanks, Jaelan! It’s nice to remember that even Bill Gates and Beyonce had to start somewhere. :)

  • Lora

    I love this! You have to start somewhere. And this is exactly the reminder that I needed today! Thank you!

    • Eternally WanderLyn

      I’m so glad that this reminder came at a good time for you. I think with all the new goals everyone has for the year it’s nice to remember that we all have to start at the beginning. It’s not just us. :)

  • SMD @ Life According to Steph

    We all start somewhere! I’m always surprised when people expect to be totally up to speed on something they’ve just started.

    • Eternally WanderLyn

      Right?! They pick up a guitar and wonder why they can’t play that awesome guitar solo despite the fact that they’ve only been playing for a week. Hah. I mean it can be frustrating, but we all have to start at the beginning.

  • Mariah-Food, Booze, & Baggage

    So true! I have a hard time with this. I have to remind myself that you aren’t just magically perfect at something new. I get frustrated easily at times.

    • Eternally WanderLyn

      Oh, me too, especially when I’m not improving as quickly as I’d like to be. It’s hard to start from the beginning, but it’s helpful to remember that we’ve all been there. I have to keep reminding myself of that when my blog isn’t quite where I want it to be also. :)

  • Amy @ The Crazy Wise Woman

    I love this. We all try so hard to be perfect we often set ourselves up for complete failure in setting goals! Cheers to beginnings… I love starting over :)

    • Eternally WanderLyn

      It can definitely be so refreshing to start over with a clean slate! :) But, like you said it’s important not to set ourselves up to fail right from the start.

  • Tricia’s Mostly Healthy Life

    This is a really good point and sometimes I need a reminder of this. Especially at work – I started a new position at the same company and expected to have both barrels blazin’!! And they were a blazin’ for a new person but not the way I wanted them to be. Thanks for sharing!

    • Eternally WanderLyn

      Oh, no! It can be really difficult when you expect things to just be smooth sailing, but realize there’s much more to it than you originally thought. I’m sure that you’ll be smokin’ (the good kind) in no time! Just remember, it’s okay to be a beginner. We all are at some point. :) Good luck!

  • Melanie

    I really love this quote!
    Melanie @

    • Eternally WanderLyn

      Me too. It’s one of my favorites! :)

  • Chiara

    Wide words as always Lynsey. Love it x

    • Eternally WanderLyn

      Thanks, Chiara! I really appreciate that. :)

  • Amanda lucy

    Lynsey, what language are you thinking about learning? And I am super guilty of this. But I feel because I didn’t accomplish it when I was in my 20s, I’m afraid I’ll never get to it, so I want to do it all!

    • Eternally WanderLyn

      Amanda, I’m so torn between many different languages from Korean to French. :) That’s part of my problem. I just can’t decide. And I totally understand where you’re coming from. I missed out on a few things when I was younger so now I keep trying to make up for lost time. Hah.

  • [email protected]

    YESSSSS! 10000% true. great things happen through hard work and it’s through mistakes and learning that makes your things great!

    • Eternally WanderLyn

      It gives you such a sense of accomplishment once you really do get it right! Plus, it makes for some really great stories. Hah.

  • Mookie Moo

    Wise words lovely. I totally agree. The sad thing these days is that so many expect so much from you that you feel pressured into knowing everything straight away. I would like to get a new job as I’m not happy where I am, but I’m worried about not being able to cope with learning something new due to my health so instead I’ve started working four days a week to have more time to relax and blog. I hope I can develop my blog a bit more. Would be fun to be able to work from home and live of it. :) xx

    • Eternally WanderLyn

      Three days weekends sound amazing! I hope it’s helping with your health! I was just excited when I finally got my weekends back. A full two years of working a split shift with only 1 day off a week definitely took it’s toll. I’m also glad that you have a bit more time to work on your blog, which I love! :) That means I’ll get more of it! Hah. I’m also hoping to spend a bit more time on my blog this year to develop it. It’s crazy how much time blogging actually takes, isn’t it?

  • jackie

    so true! anything worth doing definitely requires practice and everyone starts somewhere :)

    • Eternally WanderLyn

      I love that you add the words “anything worth doing.” That really makes a difference, doesn’t it? If it’s worth doing, then it’s worth the time and effort. The trick is figuring out whether we want it bad enough. :)

  • melaniekay

    I love this post!
    Melanie @

    • Lynsey @ Eternally WanderLyn

      Thank you! I’m glad you enjoyed it. :)