Sometimes People are Jerks

kindness, jerks, be kind or be quiet

Saturday night the boyfriend and I decided to splurge on dinner and a discount movie. Big spenders, I know. But this girl has to save money for her birthday trip at the end of the month. Not to mention, all the alcohol that it will take to help her forget that she’s only 1 year away from the big 3-0.

Okay, enough of this 3rd person nonsense. Who do I think I am? Elmo?

Anyway, there we were settling in for our $2 movie when I got a front row seat to Jerkfest 2014. As the lights began to dim, a woman in an electric wheelchair and her guy grabbed the last available handicap spot in the theater. The man to my right, who was reclining so far back in his seat that he was squishing the woman behind him, was not happy with this seating arrangement.

“I CAN’T SEE OVER YOUR HEAD!’ he snarled repeatedly at the woman, who could do nothing but stare back at him blankly.

When the opening credits finally began to play without disruption, I thought his entry for Jerkfest was complete. I never realized that he was aiming for the title of King Jerk. Within a few minutes, his royal highness was requesting that the woman move. That’s right. This able-bodied king of jerks was asking a woman in a wheelchair to move because he couldn’t see. Forget the fact that all the other handicap seats were occupied or that there was an empty seat next to the king. Nope. None of that mattered as he made her move.

I couldn’t believe the audacity of this man sitting one seat away from me. It was all I could do not to call him a jerk to his face. The woman on the other hand handled the situation with a lot of grace and dignity. She didn’t call him any names. She didn’t argue or cause a scene. She just moved. Unfortunately, that meant that she was forced to watch the movie from the center of the isle, while her manfriend sat in the row in front of her. Talk about a date night gone wrong.

It’s situations like this one that make me question the human race. We have put a man the moon, built buildings that kiss the sky, eradicated diseases, and invented the cronut. But we still can’t treat one another with the respect and kindness that we all deserve.

So today I’d like to remind y’all that your actions matter. Kindness matters. Kindness has the power to brighten someone’s day, make people feel less alone, and to change the world. Maybe if King Jerk had acted out of kindness, that woman could have enjoyed a fun movie date with her man sitting next to her. Maybe I would have been commending him for switching seats instead of making a scene. And maybe the world would have been shy one jerk that Saturday night.

So don’t join the ranks of royal jerkiness. Be compassionate. Be respectful. Be kind. And if you can’t be kind, be quiet.

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Have you ever had a similar experience? How do you handle jerks?
  • Oh my word I would not have been able to keep myself from saying something to him. What a rude asshole!

  • Wow. People can be unreal. That woman is a far better person than I am!

  • People are absolutely insane. When something like this happens in my life, I try to remember that negativity spreads like wildfire, but so does kindness.
    The truth is that some people will never learn that, and they will be miserable, and spread misery everywhere they go. It’s our (you know, the nice people) job to be kind to others and to hope that it rubs off on others.

    • You’re absolutely right. Some people will never learn to be kind or to spread any sort of kindness. That’s such a sad existence. I hope that the rest of us can continue to spread kindness despite the negative individuals we encounter. 🙂

  • Whoa, what an a-hole. I was planning on ripping-on line cutters in Wed’s confession post. They aren’t as bad as this person who couldn’t even give a gal in a wheelchair a break. However, what goes around comes around.

    • Oh, I definitely hope it does come around! I was so shocked that he actually made her move. I mean, how hard was it to just slide over one seat? People are crazy.

  • What in the world is wrong with people?!?!?!?! Like seriously?! If I would have been the woman in the wheelchair I would have told him to go ffffffff himself. So kudos to her for being graceful.

  • what a complete and utter ass!

  • How utterly disgusting!! He could have moved himself since she was in the correct spot able to fit her wheelchair. So rude, I would have had a hard time being silent or telling an usher to escort him out.

    • Oh, I wanted to! But I figured if the lady and her husband didn’t say anything, they probably didn’t want to make a huge scene about it. What a jerk!

  • “if you can’t be kind, be quiet.” Yes! Exactly.

  • People are so damn entitled! It’s insane.

  • Just reading about this makes me want to jump on a plane, track down that guy and introduce his face to a meat tenderiser. Why on earth did the management not tell HIM to move. I despair.

    • Haha. I love you for that! The lady and her hubby didn’t complain or tell management, so they didn’t know anything about it. I wish they had told someone, so they could have made him leave.

      • I guess they were too dignified for a scene, unlike Mr Bozo. Ah well, I hope karma comes knocking with interest!

  • Wow, super rude of that guy! He could have moved?!

  • Some people just disgust me that they lack any basic decency. Being in that situation I would’ve wondered “Am I on that What Would You Do show right now? This can’t be a real person.” But alas there are sadly far too many people like that.

    • Hah. It does seem like something that would be featured on that show, doesn’t it? Unfortunately, you’re right. There are way to many people like that in the world.

  • What an asshole!! There were other seats for him to move to and he just felt like he shouldn’t be bothered. I’m not sure I could have stopped myself from saying something. Some people!

    • It was so ridiculous. I’m pretty sure he heard my pretty loud, “wow!” I was just so stunned.

  • Some people can be true jerks. I’m so sorry that you, and the woman had to experience this on Saturday. You handled the situation much better than I would have.

    • I was very surprised at how the woman handled the situation. If it was me, I would have refused to move. I probably would have called the guy a few choice names. 😉

  • Kari

    I cannot believe this is real life. It’s stories like these that make me question whether humans are evolving or devolving. Goodness.