My Unwanted Houseguest

Unwanted Houseguest : Fear

Fear, the same sentiment that leads to visions of our impending doom should we make the wrong decision, embarrass ourselves or fail miserably, has been creeping around my place recently. The sly little devil lurks in the shadows waiting for those moments when I am alone to pounce and wrestle me to the ground with its weapons – doubt and insecurity.

I have always prided myself on the ability to pursue my dreams, follow my passions and be true to myself. However, my frightening little stalker seems to have hit the pause button on my most recent goals. Instead of moving forward, I’m running in place frozen by hesitation and fear. I’m frightened of the mistakes I could be making, the failure I could be inviting and the changes that are inevitable. After all, I may be in my twenties, but my life has already been marked by a few whopping errors that have filled me with a deep sense of regret.

It’s only in my moments of clarity that the truth becomes apparent: Risk is a necessity of life. Without risk there would be no adventure, passion, love or action. We would remain frozen in place filling our hearts with the regret of not taking the chance for greatness. And greatness would cease to exist, while we would cease to dream. What good are dreams if you do not/will not try?

Don't be afraid to fail

I’ve come to realize that it’s about damn time that I kicked my unwelcome house guest to the curb. I will use my fear to proceed with caution and wisdom, but it is no longer a welcome constant in my life. The only way my dreams will ever come true is if I actually get off my ass and do something about them. So today I am taking that first step! I’m emailing my boss to discuss cutting my hours to part time in order to have the time to pursue other business ventures. I’ve worked out the numbers and should be okay financially, but it’s still terrifying.

I could either fall flat on my face or be the next Oprah. Either way, it’s time that I start creating the life that I want. So you saw it here first folks – I am leaping.

What would you do if failure was not an option? How do you deal with your fears?

  • kathy @ vodka and soda

    i try and gain some perspective: what doesn’t kill you will only make you stronger. if it doesn’t work out, at least you tried. life is too short to live with regrets and the only way you’ll know is if you try. wishing you all the best! we’re all cheering for you!

    -kathy
    Vodka and Soda

    • Thanks for the advice and support, Kathy! I agree. Life is way too short for regrets. 🙂

  • When I first read the title I thought the post would be about mice! Lol I’m crazy!
    Leap away! This is just the first step of many. Fear can be so crippling. I trust you will make the right choices and I pray for guidance for your life. Keep us posted 🙂

    • Haha! Thankfully we don’t have THOSE kind of houseguests!! And thank you so much for your support. I’ll make sure to keep y’all posted. 😀

  • Great post Lynsey! Best of luck and can’t wait to hear about what you do next! That is a very brave step and I’m totally envious 🙂 I can totally relate to the feelings.

  • I wish you lots of luck on your new endeavours! If there was no fear, I’d already be an author. Or to be more precise, if there was no fear and I got off my arse I’d be an author. 😉

    • Hah! Same here on that one! I’ve never thought my writing was good enough to be an author though. 🙂

  • Wow, you are so brave! It’s good to hear that you’ve crunched numbers so it’s not a complete jump-off-the-cliff moment. Though it is in other ways!!! Congrats. Can’t wait to read more about your courageous journey. I can’t imagine myself having no fear because once I imagine doing something, my logical side just kicks in and asks, “what about this? what about that?”. But that’s ok. I’m happy where I am in life.

    • Oh, no! I couldn’t even imagine doing it without figuring out how my bills were going to be payed! I suppose my logical side kicks in also. LOL. Thanks for the encouragement! And I’m so glad that you have found your happy place. 🙂

  • Amanda

    “I will use my fear to proceed with caution and wisdom, but it is no longer a welcome constant in my life.” Such a PERFECT way of putting it. Very wise! 🙂

    • Thanks, Amanda! I’m pretty excited not to be working a split shift anymore. 😀

  • I have ridiculous anxiety so I think this is very brave indeed! x

  • I’m 32 and I still get that same unwanted house guest all too often. Mostly because I never really had the chance to do what I’m doing now – which is following my dreams. The little unwanted house guest monster thing creeps back in sometimes, but I do my best to bar him from my home. I think my boyfriend and his ever steady encouragement helps with that.
    Another thing I always keep in mind is something that my first boyfriend I ever had said to me when I was 16 and it still sticks with me to this day: regret nothing. Look at the things you would regret as a life lesson, learn from it, and move on. The only thing to regret is not learning from your mistakes. Maybe keeping that in mind might help keep out the unwanted house guest. 🙂

    • Fantastic advice, Danielle! I’ll keep that in mind. I also keep looking at inspirational quotes on Pinterest to keep me motivated. Hah.

  • Haha those things annoy me too. Thanks for stopping by and commenting on my “Where I’m traveling in 2014” post.

    • Anytime! I loved your post and am so envious of all your trips! Thanks for stopping by. 🙂