Love EVERY Body: A Letter to My Body

Love EVERY Body, Body love, Self-esteem

Today marks the start of the “Love EVERY Body Workshop” created by the lovely Leah of Just me Leah.

Leah wanted to help us transform the way we think and speak about our bodies, so she created the Love EVERY Body workshop and challenge. Each month we will blog about a certain body part in hopes of being able to find something to love about each part of our bodies. And at the end we will be able to see our thoughts as they evolve over the months.

This month’s challenge is a letter to our bodies. So here’s my own gut-wrenching letter to my body:

Dear Body,

We have been through so many ups and downs over the years. There have been times when I have wanted to merely trade you in for a better, slimmer, prettier model, but I have come to realize that you are mine, only mine.

You have been the source of so much pleasure and pain in my life. Growing up, I started out as the skinny, sickly kid who was always camped out at the doctor’s office. But once my tonsils came out, it was game on! I could finally enjoy being a kid, which included finally being able to eat without pain. In return, I soon evolved into the chubby kid who would evolve some issues with body image and weight.

In high school, you allowed me to enjoy two of my favorite past times – volleyball and softball. However, I was too focused on your appearance to be able to appreciate your physical capabilities. Even though I had lost a significant amount of weight, I still felt like that chubby kid. I was focused on losing more weight and my family only helped to encourage that. “You need to lose 10 more lbs,” they would say. Looking at my photos from high school, I now realize I wasn’t fat. I wasn’t chubby. And I didn’t need to lose any more weight. I wish I had learned to appreciate you for your abilities and to accept you as you were. 

Love EVERY Body, Body love, Self-image

*Excuse the blur. This was taken with a throw-away camera 10 years ago. I’m the one in pink.

Over the years my weight has continued to yo-yo; the numbers have gone up and down on the scale and my clothing tags. And with each transformation, I have been met with both compliments on my new found skinnier self and offers to help me find that skinnier self again. No one inquired about the depression that caused some terms of weight gain. They merely inquired about how they could help me lose weight. They taught me to hate you and to be ashamed of you. I used to hide you beneath large t-shirts, while also hiding in the comfort of my apartment. That was the only way I knew how to avoid being seen. I was too ashamed to face my friends, family, and the public. I was too weak to stand up for you when all they had to say were negative comments.

Love EVERY Body, Body image, self-esteem

Love EVERY Body, Body love, Self-esteem

During my heavier times (including now), I have endured constant jabs and jokes about you, my body. I learned to laugh and pretend like it was okay that they were hurting me and demeaning you. Equating me to a whale? Haha, so funny! But not really. I have now learned to speak up for you and others like you.

Beauty comes in all sizes, shapes, colors, races, genders, etc. And none of us deserve to be told that we do not meet someone else’s standards of beauty. We are not here to meet their standards. We only need to meet our own.

I still struggle with loving you from time to time, but I have come to realize that I should be proud of you. Instead of agonizing over wanting smaller thighs and arms or fuller breasts, I should be focusing on loving you. You are capable of doing amazing things from providing me with so much sensual pleasure to merely learning how to play guitar. You may not be Hollywood skinny or beautiful, but you are beautiful.

Body, please accept my apologies for our love/hate relationship. I hope that with each month of ‘Love EVERY Body’ our relationship will be transformed into one of pure love.

All my love,

Lynsey

What would you like to say to your own body? Leave me a comment and let me know.

  • I´m so glad you´ve finally been able to stand up for you own body! I know sometimes it´s easier to go along with the joke and laugh it out, but it still hurts, specially when it comes from the people closer to us.
    I wanted to give you a high five when I read “We are not here to meet their standards. We only need to meet our own”. You go girl!

    Looking forward to sharing this workshop with you!

    • Thank you! I’m so glad that I can finally stand up for my body also. It really does hurt when those close to us joke about our bodies. I appreciate you reading the post and I also look forward to completing this workshop with you. 🙂

  • Great letter! I love my family but i hate them for making me hate my body. If only they understood what they put us through… I’m glad you learned to speak up for yourself. That’s really brave!

    • Thank you! I think our families just need to learn to support and encourage us. They need to forget about our physical appearance and just love us for who we are. 😀 I hope that we can both learn to love our bodies completely through this challenge.

  • Rhonda Dempsie

    Truely inspiring post! I can identify with so much of what you wrote – about the yo-yoing – the hurtful remarks dressed up as jokes – I hope to get to the stage of not laughing along! I love this: “Beauty comes in all sizes, shapes, colors, races, genders, etc. And none of us deserve to be told that we do not meet someone else’s standards of beauty. We are not here to meet their standards. We only need to meet our own. ” You look gorgeous in all of your pictures! Look forward to reading more posts during these workshops!

    • You’re very sweet. Thank you! 🙂 I think it often feels easier to laugh along with the hurtful jokes than to say something and admit that it’s hurting us. But the jokes will never stop if we don’t say something. And they will never learn anything. I hope you get there! 😀

  • Absolutely beautiful post, so positive, and you are beautiful, fab sparkly eyes and a wonderful smile.

    And this is a fabulous mantra “We are not here to meet their standards. We only need to meet our own.”

    Looking forward to reading more xxx

    • Thank you! You’re so kind. 🙂 I loved your post btw. I’m really looking forward to reading your next one too.

  • Thanks for taking part. You’re such a pretty girl (at all weights) and I’m sorry people have teased you for your weight. I’d like to hit whoever it was who called you a whale over the head with a heavy book. How dare they! They must know words like hurt – do they not have a heart?

    I’m glad you’re sticking up for your body and for others like it now and I can’t wait to read more from you in this challenge. x x x

    • Thank you, Leah! I’m very excited to be doing this workshop with you and all the other girls. I can’t wait to read more from everybody. Thanks for creating such a wonderful challenge!

  • Great letter, thank you for sharing your story. Reading everyone’s posts it seems that unsupportive/non body positive families are quite common, I feel somewhat lucky that my family have never commented on my size. Looking forward to reading your future posts x

    • Thank you! I’m so glad that your family didn’t comment on your size! I’m also happy that you are now able to love your body and overcome all the years of bullying. I’m looking forward to reading more of your posts, as well. 🙂